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Mervin1337
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OK so I was up to 3 o'clock last night talking to her on MSN and it went along pretty great. I asked her what she was gonna do now that school is out and she said she was gonna party all of June. I told her that we should party together and she wanted me to arrange a BBQ next week. I am pretty much up for and I'm gonna make it a huge party inviting a bunch of people and BBQ-ing, drinking and stuff. How should I act towards her at the upcoming BBQ and what should I say to her?
On a side note when she signed of at 3 o'clock I gave her a kissing smiley and she replied with: "Haha" a.k.a laughing, how should interpert this? 
Thanks for all the answers so far.
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DanSoup
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| Mervin1337 wrote: | | On a side note when she signed of at 3 o'clock I gave her a kissing smiley and she replied with: "Haha" a.k.a laughing, how should interpert this? |
A few of my friends send me the "x"s when they sign off if we've been talking, it pretty much all means nothing. I don't think there IS a way to interpret that situation.
I'd say your best bet is to get a good friend to maybe ask her what she thinks of you, he could be all like:
"Hey, you and Mervin seem pretty close."
"Yes, I think he's very pretty."
"You guys should totaly hook up."
"NAAAOOOOOO!"
"Why?"
"Well, between you and me, I do like him alot. HANG ON! Did he put you up to this?"
"No... "
Then you can see what their reactin is, but be careful, if it's someone she doesn't really trust she probably won't let them in on her feelings, best if it's a friend of hers AND yours.
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peacelovetequila
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| Posted: Mon Jun 15, 2009 4:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Mervin1337 wrote: | On a side note when she signed of at 3 o'clock I gave her a kissing smiley and she replied with: "Haha" a.k.a laughing, how should interpert this?
Thanks for all the answers so far. |
At this point there's nothing to do except for wait and see if her attitude changes. I don't recommend the "send-a-friend" approach. Just wait until the party and let your conscience be your guide.
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Fernwilter
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| Posted: Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:37 pm Post subject: |
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Lycka till med bruden!
Good luck with the girl 
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Mervin1337
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| Posted: Mon Jun 15, 2009 11:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Fernwilter wrote: | Lycka till med bruden!
Good luck with the girl |
Tack, jävligt klurig situation men det ska nog gå bra:)
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Kyuukyuu
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no offense guy but did you have no contact with girls through all of high school or something? you're 18 (i'm guessing) and wondering what it meant when a girl said "haha" to you on msn? :S
just ask her out somewhere one on one, show her a good time, and see what you can do... seems like you're asking for a step by step script/guide of what to do here, which pretty much doesn't work |
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peacelovetequila
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| Mervin1337 wrote: | | Fernwilter wrote: | Lycka till med bruden!
Good luck with the girl |
Tack, jävligt klurig situation men det ska nog gå bra:) |
I may not speak Swedish but I don't like how that sounds! 
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| Posted: Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:15 am Post subject: |
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| Just tell her how you feel man, there is no other way around it. If you can communicate your feelings to her then you are set. But you have to be sure that you do like her, because if she rejects you it is hard to stay friends. Also the sooner the better for telling her your feelings, back when I was in high school I waited too long sometimes and missed my chance, so don't make the same mistake. Best of luck! |
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christiano27 
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| MetalheadNorm wrote: |
If the guy is talented enough, he can keep his female happy 100% of the time. This is incredibly difficult, yes. Even I am unable to give my female happiness 100% of the time. But there are some things that guys can do to increase the happiness % of their female.
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What the hell. You make it sound as if you're some sort of Pokémon trainer with your happiness %.
I don't at all agree with what you say, I think if he just grabbed her she would be like 'what was that?' or something. But what do I know, I'm no expert.
I'll try and help you out mate.
A good way I have found is to infiltrate her group of friends and make them think you're cool or whatever (basically, get to know them, she will appreciate this too (as long as you don't get too close!)) then ask one of them what she thinks of you or ask one of them to find out. They will most likely think your cute or whatever for being interested (as long as she doesn't have a bf (which she doesn't right?)) and they will tell you or ask her without telling her you asked.
If you can't do this then go out with her, just you two and talk, laugh etc. and then just tell her how you feel. I don't know, something like:
'I think we've become really close etc. etc. I like you etc. would like to be more than friends', then ask her what she thinks. If she says I like you too then great, go in for the kiss, she may even stop you pouring your heart out and might lean in (even better but unlikely). Worst case is she says we're just friends and she doesn't want to lose you as a friend. If that happens then all is not lost as you still have a cool friend but you will just have to accept that it is not going to be with this girl.
Oh and one more thing make sure you do something ASAP as I am the master of alling into the friends zone (sometimes its better) and once your there, wave goodbye to any form of sexual contact with that girl...oh wait, I mean long romantic walks and candle lit dinners  !
Hope I helped out!
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| 9001 wrote: | Why would you ask a GH forum about girl advice?  |
General chat, is meant for stuff like this, help on personal things, and many many other topics. some of us may have had this same experience, and thats why he posted.
If that were to happen to me, I would confront her and say something like "I believe we have a special connection" and go on from there. I'm not saying do just that, but eventually it may be worth the try. |
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| MetalheadNorm wrote: |
One last thing @ Guitarhailz: If the guy is talented enough, he can keep his female happy 100% of the time. |
Impossible. I've been with my girlfriend for four years and four months. She's my best friend because we enjoy each others company and we like doing things together. I love her and I'm going to marry her one day. Sounds like 100% happiness, right? Nope. Try anything you want no relationship will ever be 100% perfect.
Besides, it would completely suck if someone agreed with you all the time.
And Merv: Do NOT risk kissing her. When dealing with relationships don't go for the home run, you'll strikeout more. Go for the approach that will allow you to position yourself better to make sure that you'll be able to swing for the fences later. If you kiss her and she enjoys it, then you've acheived victory, yes. But the negative effects outweigh the positive. You could very easily have someone think your a creeper and then she'll spread that to all of her other friends, making it even tougher for you.
Dealing with women isn't all about attacking. If you wait she'll think you're a sweetheart and then you'll be in the clear.
Patience, my friend.
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SirSire
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| I can actually relate to this, so here goes. I was really good friends with this girl for a long time. Just friends, no romance or anything, until all of a sudden I liked her. I kept it a secret for a while, because I didn't want to ruin our friendship, but it was eating my insides up that I had this huge of a crush on one of my best friends. I finally gave in and told her. She was a little surprised at first, but honestly, I made the right move, because we've now been dating for 6 months. I didn't just post my life story here for no reason; there is a moral to this story. If you're close to one another and this is between you, you need to let her know. Not just for your sake, but for the state of your friendship as well. Best of luck, and please let us know what happens. |
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pman5595
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From reading everything, my first impression was that she likes you, but I'm not an expert by any means on this kind of stuff.
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| Tracemander wrote: | | MetalheadNorm wrote: |
One last thing @ Guitarhailz: If the guy is talented enough, he can keep his female happy 100% of the time. |
Impossible. I've been with my girlfriend for four years and four months. She's my best friend because we enjoy each others company and we like doing things together. I love her and I'm going to marry her one day. Sounds like 100% happiness, right? Nope. Try anything you want no relationship will ever be 100% perfect.
Besides, it would completely suck if someone agreed with you all the time.
And Merv: Do NOT risk kissing her. When dealing with relationships don't go for the home run, you'll strikeout more. Go for the approach that will allow you to position yourself better to make sure that you'll be able to swing for the fences later. If you kiss her and she enjoys it, then you've acheived victory, yes. But the negative effects outweigh the positive. You could very easily have someone think your a creeper and then she'll spread that to all of her other friends, making it even tougher for you.
Dealing with women isn't all about attacking. If you wait she'll think you're a sweetheart and then you'll be in the clear.
Patience, my friend. |
This post is just straight up 100% correct. One thing that I would like to add: If you're going to do something, but it feels awkward, then DON'T DO IT. Don't kiss her if you feel like it's going to be awkward. Don't tell her you really like her if you feel like it's going to be awkward. Do what you feel is the right thing to do. If you feel like telling her you have feelings for her on MSN feels the most comfortable, then do that. Don't force yourself into a position in which you immediately want to back out of.
Yea, sure, some woman would want you to kiss them if you like them and "be a man about it". But not all women would like that. Not even close, IMO. And depending on the situation and the girl, I don't think that most girls would mind if a friend asks her if she has feelings for you or if you tell her through a text or IM. The worst case scenario for something like this is that afterward she would be like "You should've just came and asked me about it yourself!" (saying that in a friendly tone) and then you both move on with your lives. If she honestly stops being your friend or wouldn't date you because you had someone else ask her about her feelings towards you, then...that's just dumb.
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ZackaryCF
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| Posted: Thu Jun 18, 2009 7:15 am Post subject: |
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Quite simply, the way you are describing it, she is interested in you as well.
How you choose to pursue her is your choice, but I'm pretty certain she's interested.
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