How to get over a girl/break ups?

**prognostics** · Joined: 13 May 2008 Posts: 1252

Yeah I was recently dumped, get over it. If you make fun of me you're pathetic.

I'm not sure what to do, whether to talk to her or not, and about the situation in general.
Most people on SH are reasonable...

Hopefully this doesn't turn into another inappropriate thread.

Also, to whoever on this site knows me in real life, don't mention names.

EDIT:
She has a new boyfriend now, who she cheated on me with.

**jdamillio** · Joined: 17 Oct 2007 Posts: 1041 Location: Philadelphia

flat out ignore her if you know she wont take you back. as harsh as it sounds, thats really the only way you'll fully get over her. thats what i had to do to get over mine
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**sean2490** · Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 4:03 am Post subject:

If she was cheating on you, you're better off without her.

Besides, think of all the money you'll save!
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**MetalheadNorm** · Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 1041 Location: Michigan

Go to a metal show with some friends. You will feel awesome for at least a couple days despite females trying to bring you down.
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**Qarx** · Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 4:25 am Post subject:

**clawmaster2** · Last edited by clawmaster2 on Fri Feb 05, 2010 3:15 pm; edited 1 time in total

Edit: Everyone else's advice is sooo much better than what I had to say.
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**Quakmybush** · Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 4:41 am Post subject:

as horrible as this is going to sound.

Suck it Up

end of story

**Sarg338** · Joined: 07 Feb 2008 Posts: 5143

To Quote T-Bag from the Pure Pwnage Series: "The only cure for girl troubles... Is MORE girls!!"

But seriously, there are PLENTY of other girls. She cheated on you, just completely forget about her.

**ferretgod** · Joined: 02 Oct 2007 Posts: 276

Be the bigger person and treat her decently and respectfully and never show that its bothering you.

1. That's just the right thing to do.

2. In my past this drives them crazy and it's pretty fun and the fact that you have done nothing wrong takes away any guilt you would feel by "getting back at her." Even if it doesn't bother her it's better being the respectful person rather than playing into more high school drama. (Sorry if your not in HS)

Remember the cliches: What goes around comes around. You reap what you sowe. She'll get whats coming to her, that should help you cope.
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**CHawk** · Joined: 12 Jun 2008 Posts: 2151 Location: North Carolina

There are many ways to interpret this, and I can speak from experience, with the same exact thing happening to me a couple months ago.

1, Try to find something to distract your mind, whether it be video games, working out, etc. It helped me a lot when I was trying to get over my girl.

2, Start hanging out with other girls. Like above posters have said, there's other fish in the sea, and noone deserves a cheater. So hanging out with more girls should help you get over your current one.

Using the above things, don't dwell on her. Some things may happen that you may not know until quite later, whether it be mood swings, lethargy, loss of appetite, ultimately leading to depression. It sucks, so do your best to keep it from happening.

Feel free to PM me or IM me if you need someone that can sympathize with you. :P

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**GlassDragon** · Joined: 24 May 2008 Posts: 1122

I'm going to have to disagree with the above posters in a sense. If you can talk to the girl and not feel weird about it, well then maybe you should. But honestly I've been in this situation and there's always some bitterness, leaving you conflicted and miserable. In my experience, staying around this girl or trying to communicate with her at all will not help you.

The best thing to do is tell her off. She aint worth your time. Tell her how horrible of a person she is for doing what she did to you. You may be sad for a day or two but honestly after maybe a week you'll be glad that bitch is gone.
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**qays1991** · Joined: 31 Jan 2008 Posts: 434 Location: UK

There are many ways to tackle this kinda situation. It all depends on how you, tackle it

If you want to totally lose your pain, because this happened, one way to do it is, get rid of everything related to her! This includes photos, text messages, any items related to her, her phone number, as much as possible! You're, you could probably lend it to a friend, but it makes you feel sort of safe cuz the items are pretty much in a safe place. Throwing it away for good really breaks you at first, but the pain will die away faster.

I'll admit, this isn't the best way, I did this once, and I was in sh*T mode and went into immediate emotion dead, but I think this is the FASTEST way to let go of her, this method took me three days, and I was back to normal after that. I'm sure the duration of time to forget about her depends on how much you throw away and how much you're willing to forget her.

Then like people say, you can still respect her and still talk to her if you want to. Cuz maybe that's how you feel, like you're angry at her, yet you still want to talk to her. Her doing that is a real d*ck move though, but if she still talks to you, that makes you happy right? but that's just the problem, you are probably gonna have (general guess) a 80% chance of developing hope that you might still have a chance with her. But the fact is, she cheated on you, so it pretty much says her character already, so in summary, she's a real d*ck for doing that, and she's just not worth your time. Other than that, your feelings for her are probably not gonna fade, and you'll probably still be feeling that pain like 'Ohmigod she cheated on me I hate my life I want to go emo mode slit wrist stereotype...'

I did this method once too, it took me two months to totally forget about her, and all the pain to go away I guess. MY sister's ex is pretty much going through this as well, but it's been three months I think and he's still ignoring her like sh*t. But my sister and her ex situation is bit of a different story...

One thing you should always do of course, is talk to a person about it, don't try to keep it all inside, you gotta let it out sometimes, otherwise you're gonna be like me one time in class where I just suddenly cried in class.

The situation was kinda funny though, cuz I was all 'ahhaha sh*t dude that's funny damn you suck' *tears start boiling down* friend: dude, what the f*ck are you ok?!'
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**wambafat** · Joined: 14 Feb 2007 Posts: 183

Uh... not to sound insensitive or like a pompous ass but... Go get another girl. Your sadly going to quickly realize why your ex wasn't amazing and why she really was just another girl.

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