Making a Good First Impression

**CristianHero** · Joined: 06 Mar 2010 Posts: 404

I've always had a hard time with picking up chicks. I don't know how everyone else is so successful.

Long story short: There is this girl that is really hot at my high school. She's like at least in the top 5 of the hottest girls at my school

. I want to get to know her well, without being a creep or a stalker and hopefully getting dates with her

. I'm scared of getting nervous or freezing up when I make my move.

So what I want to know is, how do I make a good first impression?

EDIT: There is some misunderstanding from so far everyone >_>. What I mean is "What do I say if I approach her for the first time ever?" I don't want to seem stupid. Also, I DO NOT HAVE ANY CLASSES WITH HER.

**Qarx** · Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 12:10 am Post subject:

1. Host a party
2. Invite the girl in question, along with lots of other people
3. Make Guitar Hero available
4. Show off to your friends who all suck at the game
5. ???
6. Profit!

Personally, I would just talk to her, but it's hard for me to think up topics of conversation, especially on the spot. If you have any ideas, think them up in advance, maybe practice for a bit, too. If the girl is interested in something you're interested in, then jackpot!

I've also noticed girls like guys who can listen, so if you can provoke her to tell a story, i.e., one of her experiences (not easy, I'm sure), then listen intently, or at least nod and pretend you're listening

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**sorasgoof** · Joined: 09 Mar 2008 Posts: 2314

Obligatory "don't date her because of her looks" post.

Seriously.
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**Fatsausage** · Joined: 02 Aug 2009 Posts: 159 Location: U bloodey K :/

Just be confident.

If you're in any of her classes sit near her, make conversation and (if you can) make her laugh.

Think of it this way, If you can't even have a proper conversation with her, how would you expect to have a relationship with her?

This would also be a good way to see if she has a good personality.

Personality > Looks.
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**InflatablePie** · Joined: 21 Aug 2007 Posts: 2022 Location: Syrinx

From what I hear, everyone usually says:

- Confidence
- Don't be a doormat (she says jump, you ask how high etc)
- Gain her interest, but make her want to like you. Try not to force yourself too hard on the chick, but make your intent kind of clear. If she's intrigued, she'll flirt back.

I'm probably wrong.

Easier said than done, though. Good luck to ya.
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**CristianHero** · Joined: 06 Mar 2010 Posts: 404

Bump for edit. You guys are misunderstanding what I'm saying >_>.

**Qarx** · Posted: Sat May 29, 2010 2:27 am Post subject:

My post WAS talking about meeting her for the first time >_>.
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**GuitarHailz** · Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 4910 Location: Austin, Texas

A large post is probably coming because I am Hailz and this is what I do. Note: All sarcasm in this post is for the hilarity of all and due to a general disdain for the teenage population. Take seriously at own risk.

It takes 20 seconds to make a good first impression and 30 more interactions after that to correct a "bad" first impression. So make it count!

If you make the first thing you say to her something interesting or funny or, I dunno, just not awkward or creeper-ish, then generally your impression will be good. That doesn't mean she'll want to date you or anything, though, of course. And we can't have any new friends in our lives, only hot girlfriends!

Judging by your post, I assume you've never even spoken to this girl, so how do you know you want to date her? If you've never interacted with her that just seems kind of risky (and dumb).

As for how to make a good first impression? That's kind of hard advice to give unless we know this girl and what she likes or doesn't like. I mean the best thing I can say is "don't be awkward" but that's easier said than done if you're nervous and what not. And in my case I find some awkwardness to be adorable.

And maybe this is universal to all girls or just me, but I'd like to think I have a good image in my mind of people's intentions. I can probably tell if a guy were to be trying to hit on me or date me only because he thought I was "hot" (which did happen back in high school, as I was the only girl among a large group of nerds like myself, lol). If you try to "put the moves" on her before you hardly know her, she'll probably shut you down pretty fast because she can probably figure out that you're shallow. Then again I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt intelligence-wise.

I don't know if I can speak for everyone in healthy relationships when I say this, but when you really click with someone, it doesn't feel awkward at all. It might be scary to make the first move, but once you do everything should fall into place and it's not this big song and dance to keep up the relationship... at least it shouldn't be. I know now you might be just after t3h h0tness before the actual relationship, but I had to say it.

Regardless, putting "dated one of the top 5 hottest girls in school" on your resume would be quite the achievement. You need to think about your future!

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**MetalheadNorm** · Joined: 21 May 2008 Posts: 1041 Location: Michigan

Yo, OP. As long as you don't look like a foot, it's easy to make a female interested in you. All it takes is a bit of confidence, and an interesting thing or two about yourself. Someone already said that you have to make her smile or laugh the first time you talk, yeah that's true because someone who can change the way you feel (example going from 'meh' to 'smile') gives a good impression, or at least makes you interested in them.

In my opinion, you're just overthinking it a bit. When I was in high school, my method was to ask them if they wanted to go to either 7-11 for slurpees or DQ for a blizzard with either you or you and your friends. Either way is fine, as long as your friends aren't going to cock block you - so watch out for that. Anyway, yeah as long as your confident, you can do anything. So, on monday you better get this done with, and you can report back to us here if you want. I'll go over advanced first date techniques as well if you manage to get her attention.

Good luck to you, good sir.
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**inkjt510** · Joined: 22 Mar 2008 Posts: 1213

Confidence confidence confidence confidence confidence confidence.

Show her why SHE needs to work to date YOU not the other way around.
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